Can I, A Fat Girl, Wear Cropped Tops?

HELL YES.

I stopped keeping track of my size a few years ago. I found a community of people online, and in real life, that didn't care that I wasn't thin. That I'd never been thin. In fact, the thinnest I've ever been is probably still around one hundred and fifty pounds. That doesn't necessarily mean I've always loved my body, that I was never uncomfortable with strangers seeing my stomach. Learning to love my body is the hardest journey I've ever taken, and I'm not done it yet.

I've been buying cropped tops for the past year, and not wearing them. They sat growing dust in my closet. I was terrified of the looks I'd get if I wore them out in public, scared of what would happen if people saw my stretch marks. I'd also been fed the idea, for my entire life, that fat = cover up. That fat was a bad thing, unhealthy and unwanted. I'll be honest, I just got tired of everyone telling me I couldn't that I decided to just go for it.

I'd recently moved to Florida where, surprise, it's extremely hot. All the time. I had the shirts in my drawers, right at the top. Waiting to be worn. I saved my favourite top (white halter with cacti on it) for a club night. A small (but crowded) bar in Orlando was doing a 90s and 2000s night, and I decided that was the night to go out and (not really) bare all.

Now, I didn't get the chance I thought I'd have to put effort into my appearance that night, which is good because I think if I had, I would have second guessed myself. I just rushed home from work and missed the cab so i got my hair wet, left it down, threw on my clothes, added some red lipstick and I was ready! I was in my favourite high waisted black shorts, and my cropped top. At first I found myself pulling it down all the time, and feeling sort of paranoid. It felt like every person in the bar was staring at me.

Spoiler alert: they weren't.

Once we got onto the dance floor and I calmed down a bit, I started listening to my new friends and their compliments. It felt so nice to hear people say these things. They were all pretty much strangers to me still, so it was nice to know it wasn't someone who had known me forever giving me a compliment because they knew I was nervous. Their sentiments were all honest. I just let loose that night. And it was the best decision I've ever made.

Now cropped tops are a staple in my wardrobe, I've purchased more, and I'm quick to tie up a simple t-shirt to crop it. I've learned to love my stomach and stop caring that people can see it. I may still pair the crops with high waisted pants every once in a while, but hey! We all have our bad days, and they are most certainly not set backs. Just bumps along the road to self confidence.

So to answer the question, YES! Rock your cropped tops fat girls! You look amazing, and anyone who tells you that you don't, is clearly not the sharpest tool in the shed.

bisous,

tay

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